Change is good... or so I'm told. Sometimes I wonder.
Last Sunday, the pastor of our church announced he was leaving to work for Helping Hands Missions. After our pastor's trip to Uganda in March of this year, he knew the Lord was calling him into the mission field. Our church has watched, prayed, participated in multiple missions that include our local schools, our homeless. A group from my church went to Uganda with my pastor and those of us who remained prayed for them.
Our pastor is not only the leader of our church, but also a friend. I know he is following God's calling, but I'm still concentrating on my own flesh when I say I wish he were staying. I see the impact this church, this pastor's heart, has had on my family's life, and I realize that God is at work in every single thing. I know we are not to put our faith in man... still, I am torn. My family will press on. We will continue to stay at this church because we love it and are comfortable here. I don't want this change, but it is not my decision. How can you wrestle with change when it's completely a "God" thing?
I suppose we can wrestle all we want but in the end we know Who will win.
I'm also facing change at my job. Earlier this year, the company announced my department will be moving to another state. Other departments will fully relocate to my current location. We have the option to stay in this current town and change positions or follow our current position to the new location. I have made the choice to stay. Eventually those of us who do not move will interview for a new position. If we don't get a position, we will be given an offer management says will be reasonable.
Some may not receive an offer.
I realize this solution is better than receiving a pink slip, but still, I'm wrestling against this change as well. I'm trying to see the bright side, but sometimes, it's hard to see the sun through the clouds. You know its there, and there's a definite glare, but the sun just won't shine.
I don't know where I intended to go with this post, other than to say that change is inevitable. Is it good? For some, it will be. For me, stay tuned....
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Saturday, May 14, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
no more
This weekend I decided I would stop writing. For good. No more effort. No more stress...
My reasoning was that I was too stressed trying to write. I have two young children and need to devote as much time as possible to them. I decided writing needed to take a back seat, that I would get to it when I got to it. I decided I would make a better effort at putting God first in my life, then wife, then mom, then daughter, then something else.... then focus on my 9-5 job I'm not liking very much right now.... then, writing would come in at a distant 52nd place... I felt good about my decision. Already, I felt like I had improved as a mom and a wife.
An hour later, something about the current story line I'm working on popped into my head and I realized that giving up writing may not be as easy as I thought.
What I've decided to change is my mindset. I'd turned my writing into something that had to be done, because I wanted it to be a business venture for me. The sad fact is that it isn't. This may never be a business venture for me. It may be a hobby until the day I die.
I joined a couple of writers organizations. I'm on a group blog that talks writing and everything else. I've entered/won contests. I opened Goodreads/Twitter/Facebook accounts to network with other writers, but found I can network all day long, but until I finish the book and really start querying, I have no chance. I have to turn the social media networks off to get anything done. My time is too limited to waste.
I see other people who are probably balancing as much or more than I am announce their publication contracts. I'm happy for them, but when I see the new author is someone like me, in my own rotten flesh I am jealous because I wish that were me. I can't see the end of this road but I'm not sure I want to. What good will come if I am published? A check? Recognition? Don't I realize that with publication comes its own set of problems? Don't I have enough problems? Why add more?
So I have to stop writing... for the reasons to become published... for the goal of making a name for myself... I need to stop because its not helping me, its hurting me.
If I'm going to write, then it needs to be just for me.
Back to the love of writing because I'm creating a world of new problems that belong to someone else, where true loves always wins in the end, where the worst issues will be resolved and that on that last page, everyone will live Happily Ever After.....
No more effort to write for anyone else.
No more stress.
My reasoning was that I was too stressed trying to write. I have two young children and need to devote as much time as possible to them. I decided writing needed to take a back seat, that I would get to it when I got to it. I decided I would make a better effort at putting God first in my life, then wife, then mom, then daughter, then something else.... then focus on my 9-5 job I'm not liking very much right now.... then, writing would come in at a distant 52nd place... I felt good about my decision. Already, I felt like I had improved as a mom and a wife.
An hour later, something about the current story line I'm working on popped into my head and I realized that giving up writing may not be as easy as I thought.
What I've decided to change is my mindset. I'd turned my writing into something that had to be done, because I wanted it to be a business venture for me. The sad fact is that it isn't. This may never be a business venture for me. It may be a hobby until the day I die.
I joined a couple of writers organizations. I'm on a group blog that talks writing and everything else. I've entered/won contests. I opened Goodreads/Twitter/Facebook accounts to network with other writers, but found I can network all day long, but until I finish the book and really start querying, I have no chance. I have to turn the social media networks off to get anything done. My time is too limited to waste.
I see other people who are probably balancing as much or more than I am announce their publication contracts. I'm happy for them, but when I see the new author is someone like me, in my own rotten flesh I am jealous because I wish that were me. I can't see the end of this road but I'm not sure I want to. What good will come if I am published? A check? Recognition? Don't I realize that with publication comes its own set of problems? Don't I have enough problems? Why add more?
So I have to stop writing... for the reasons to become published... for the goal of making a name for myself... I need to stop because its not helping me, its hurting me.
If I'm going to write, then it needs to be just for me.
Back to the love of writing because I'm creating a world of new problems that belong to someone else, where true loves always wins in the end, where the worst issues will be resolved and that on that last page, everyone will live Happily Ever After.....
No more effort to write for anyone else.
No more stress.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Cancer Fighting Foods
Earlier this year, I thought I'd join the Weight Watchers program and give that points counting program another try.
Once again, I ate a whole month's worth of points in a week. Oh, well. I do understand how the program works, but I rebel when faced with certain restrictions.
Despite the fact I don't do the program well, I do respect the program because if you follow its guidelines, you'll definitely eat healthier. I still receive their newsletters in my inbox, and I wanted to share with this article that can also be found on the Weight Watchers Website.
Eating well to lose weight can have some hidden benefits. Here are some scale-friendly nutrition facts that could also help you ward off cancer.
Almost everyone has been touched by cancer, either personally or by watching a loved one's battle. According to the American Cancer Society (ACS), cancer is the second leading cause of death in the United States, claiming more than a half-million lives annually. Each year, according to ACS projections, more than 1.3 million new cancer cases are diagnosed.
Researchers have linked about one-third of cancer deaths to dietary factors, such as those that contribute to obesity, according to the ACS.
Acing Antioxidants
Research has shown that people whose diets are rich in plant-based foods—fruits, vegetables and whole-grain breads and cereals—have a lower incidence of most cancers.
Why? One reason may be that people who eat more of these foods are less likely to be obese, which is a risk factor for some forms of cancer.
While researchers are still searching for the answers, it appears that plant foods, particularly produce, are rich in antioxidants and phytochemicals. According to the National Cancer Institute, antioxidants work to stabilize free radicals, which are unstable molecules that damage cells and may cause cancer. However, more research needs to be done in this area—particularly when antioxidants are taken in the form of dietary supplements.
Nutritionists recommend getting most of your nutrients through food rather than supplements, and eating in moderation from a wide variety of food groups, particularly grains, fruits and vegetables. Be sure to get the five servings of fruits and vegetables per day that Weight Watchers recommends.
Anti-Cancer Eating Plan
The following are some of the dietary recommendations from the American Cancer Society for reducing your risk of cancer:
•Eat a variety of vegetables and fruits each day, and include vegetables and fruits at every meal and for snacks.
•Eat smaller portions of high-calorie foods. Be aware that "low-fat" or "nonfat" does not mean "low-calorie" and that low-fat cakes, cookies, and similar foods are often high in calories.
•When you eat away from home, choose foods low in calories, fat and sugar, and avoid large portion sizes.
•Choose 100% juice if you drink vegetable or fruit juices.
•Choose whole-grain rice, bread, pasta and cereals, and limit consumption of refined carbohydrates, including pastries, sweetened cereals and other high-sugar foods.
•Choose fish, poultry or beans as an alternative to beef, pork and lamb. When you do eat meat, select lean cuts and eat smaller portions.
•Prepare meat by baking, broiling or poaching, rather than by frying or charbroiling.
•Limit alcohol intake to no more than 2 drinks per day for men and 1 drink a day for women. (A drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof distilled spirits.)
6 Ways to Eat More Fruits and Vegetables
Alas, 80 percent of us don't consume anything close to five servings of fruits and veggies, according to the American Dietetic Association. Here's how you can up your intake.
•Favor dishes incorporating as many plant-based ingredients as possible, such as stir-fries, soups, salads and rice salads.
•Keep crunchy raw vegetables on hand, such as carrot sticks, jicama and pepper strips.
•Add leafy greens such as spinach leaves and watercress to sandwiches.
•Consider nutrient-rich squash as a side dish.
•Top cereal and salads with fruit, nuts, sesame seeds or pumpkin seeds.
•Empty a can of beans or tomatoes into your favorite casserole
Once again, I ate a whole month's worth of points in a week. Oh, well. I do understand how the program works, but I rebel when faced with certain restrictions.
Despite the fact I don't do the program well, I do respect the program because if you follow its guidelines, you'll definitely eat healthier. I still receive their newsletters in my inbox, and I wanted to share with this article that can also be found on the Weight Watchers Website.
Foods That Help Fight Cancer
Article By: Megan Gressor
Eating well to lose weight can have some hidden benefits. Here are some scale-friendly nutrition facts that could also help you ward off cancer.
Almost everyone has been touched by cancer, either personally or by watching a loved one's battle. According to the American Cancer Society (ACS), cancer is the second leading cause of death in the United States, claiming more than a half-million lives annually. Each year, according to ACS projections, more than 1.3 million new cancer cases are diagnosed.
Researchers have linked about one-third of cancer deaths to dietary factors, such as those that contribute to obesity, according to the ACS.
Acing Antioxidants
Research has shown that people whose diets are rich in plant-based foods—fruits, vegetables and whole-grain breads and cereals—have a lower incidence of most cancers.
Why? One reason may be that people who eat more of these foods are less likely to be obese, which is a risk factor for some forms of cancer.
While researchers are still searching for the answers, it appears that plant foods, particularly produce, are rich in antioxidants and phytochemicals. According to the National Cancer Institute, antioxidants work to stabilize free radicals, which are unstable molecules that damage cells and may cause cancer. However, more research needs to be done in this area—particularly when antioxidants are taken in the form of dietary supplements.
Nutritionists recommend getting most of your nutrients through food rather than supplements, and eating in moderation from a wide variety of food groups, particularly grains, fruits and vegetables. Be sure to get the five servings of fruits and vegetables per day that Weight Watchers recommends.
Anti-Cancer Eating Plan
The following are some of the dietary recommendations from the American Cancer Society for reducing your risk of cancer:
•Eat a variety of vegetables and fruits each day, and include vegetables and fruits at every meal and for snacks.
•Eat smaller portions of high-calorie foods. Be aware that "low-fat" or "nonfat" does not mean "low-calorie" and that low-fat cakes, cookies, and similar foods are often high in calories.
•When you eat away from home, choose foods low in calories, fat and sugar, and avoid large portion sizes.
•Choose 100% juice if you drink vegetable or fruit juices.
•Choose whole-grain rice, bread, pasta and cereals, and limit consumption of refined carbohydrates, including pastries, sweetened cereals and other high-sugar foods.
•Choose fish, poultry or beans as an alternative to beef, pork and lamb. When you do eat meat, select lean cuts and eat smaller portions.
•Prepare meat by baking, broiling or poaching, rather than by frying or charbroiling.
•Limit alcohol intake to no more than 2 drinks per day for men and 1 drink a day for women. (A drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof distilled spirits.)
6 Ways to Eat More Fruits and Vegetables
Alas, 80 percent of us don't consume anything close to five servings of fruits and veggies, according to the American Dietetic Association. Here's how you can up your intake.
•Favor dishes incorporating as many plant-based ingredients as possible, such as stir-fries, soups, salads and rice salads.
•Keep crunchy raw vegetables on hand, such as carrot sticks, jicama and pepper strips.
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| Jicama - high in fiber and Vitamin C |
•Add leafy greens such as spinach leaves and watercress to sandwiches.
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| Watercress -a leafy, peppery plant, high in minerals and Vitamin C |
•Consider nutrient-rich squash as a side dish.
•Top cereal and salads with fruit, nuts, sesame seeds or pumpkin seeds.
•Empty a can of beans or tomatoes into your favorite casserole
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Maggie Contest! Deadline is fast approaching...
....A reminder email I received from the wonderful folks at Georgia Romance Writers. Just what I needed to get my rear in gear...
The Maggie deadline is June 1 and fast approaching!
Now is the time to make your final edits, get your pages together, fill out that entry form, and mail your manuscript(s) to the appropriate 2009 Maggie Awards coordinator! Use this opportunity to get critiques from two published authors and for the chance to get your story in front of an acquiring editor. And don't forget the cool jewelry. The deadline is June 1, so procrastination is not allowed!
http://www.georgiaromancewriters.org/Maggies/MaggiesHome.php
Be sure to include adequate return postage per the May 11 postage increase.
24th Annual Unpublished Maggie Awards
Sponsor: Georgia Romance Writers
Fee: $25 GRW members, $30 others
Receipt Deadline: June 1, 2009
Entry: synopsis, first chapter(s) of ms (35 pages total max)
Categories: contemporary series romance, historical
(includes Regencies), contemporary single title, fantasy/paranormal, inspirational
First round judges: published authors
Final round judges:
Historical - Chelsea Gilmore, Avalon Books
Single Title - Monique Patterson, St. Martins
Paranormal/Fantasy - Chris Keeslar, Dorchester Publishing
Inspiration - Emily Rodmell, Harlequin
Contemporary Series Romance - Susan Litman, Silhouette
Multiple entries encouraged, including up to three separate entries per category. Awardees will be announced October 3, 2009, at Moonlight & Magnolias and will receive the prestigious Maggie medallion. FMI, entry form, and rules, visit www.georgiaromancewriters.org.
The Maggie deadline is June 1 and fast approaching!
Now is the time to make your final edits, get your pages together, fill out that entry form, and mail your manuscript(s) to the appropriate 2009 Maggie Awards coordinator! Use this opportunity to get critiques from two published authors and for the chance to get your story in front of an acquiring editor. And don't forget the cool jewelry. The deadline is June 1, so procrastination is not allowed!
http://www.georgiaromancewriters.org/Maggies/MaggiesHome.php
Be sure to include adequate return postage per the May 11 postage increase.
24th Annual Unpublished Maggie Awards
Sponsor: Georgia Romance Writers
Fee: $25 GRW members, $30 others
Receipt Deadline: June 1, 2009
Entry: synopsis, first chapter(s) of ms (35 pages total max)
Categories: contemporary series romance, historical
(includes Regencies), contemporary single title, fantasy/paranormal, inspirational
First round judges: published authors
Final round judges:
Historical - Chelsea Gilmore, Avalon Books
Single Title - Monique Patterson, St. Martins
Paranormal/Fantasy - Chris Keeslar, Dorchester Publishing
Inspiration - Emily Rodmell, Harlequin
Contemporary Series Romance - Susan Litman, Silhouette
Multiple entries encouraged, including up to three separate entries per category. Awardees will be announced October 3, 2009, at Moonlight & Magnolias and will receive the prestigious Maggie medallion. FMI, entry form, and rules, visit www.georgiaromancewriters.org.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Thursday, October 2, 2008
The SOS for PMS: Practical Help and Relief for Moms by Mary Byers
Christy here:
One day this week one of our managers brought a sales person around our department, and was introducing her to each one of us. The manager didn't say anything wrong to me, but it was what she said to my co-worker that bothered me. She mentioned to the salesperson that "Julia has been with us forever..." or something of that nature (Names have been changed to protect the innocent!) Anyway, it set something off inside of me. I thought, Humph. Even though I left for 2 and a half years, I came back! And I was here longer than HER! Thank the Lord, I didn't say this out loud, but I did mention something to Julia after the ladies left. However I admitted I was just being ultra sensitive and that I was being silly.
Am I always this sensitive??? you may be wondering. No. Three weeks out of the month, I'm normal. I'm happy to be a wife and mom. I'm thankful for my job, especially in these hard economic times. But that one, premenstrual week - WATCH OUT!!!
When I found out this book "The SOS for PMS" existed I literally said: "Praise God!"
As I read Mary's book, I realized I was not alone in my struggles. Things are so bad some times, my husband knows to steer clear of me. I related to so many of the examples in the book it was scary, but also made me feel more at ease that no, it is not just my personality that makes me act like this, it's something many women struggle with. And it does get worse after you have children!
If you suffer from PMS or know a woman who does, I highly recommend this book. There are tips on how to handle those tenacious times of the month. Mary offers advice that may be obvious after you read it, but may not have been something you considered. While I was a stay at home mom, I never thought of calling up a girlfriend to see if she could help me out during the "rough days." But that's something we should be doing! It's better to get help from your friends than to explode on your children.
I'm learning to watch the weeks that go by and recognize the times that I'm susceptible to PMS. If I admit that it's the problem, I can almost tackle it better. However the key to handling PMS is realizing we are not alone in this. Although I suggest getting help from friends and family during these times, we should ultimately reach out to God. He is our true hope and only solution. Mary gives great tips, but keeps the focus on God, and that's the most important
truth in this book.
I'm running a contest to give away a FREE copy of this book! Please comment now through Monday October 6th. I'll draw the winner on Monday. Good luck!!!
About the Book:
In her latest book, Mary explores an often frustrating topic, the symptoms of PMS, and offers practical advice and encouragement for mothers. Readers will find comfort in the stories shared by other moms, realizing that they are not alone in their struggles with PMS.
With this book, you will find suggestions designed to inspire healthier lifestyles, relationships, and daily choices for all women.
Gather any group of moms together and the topic of frustrating PMS symptoms rises up in conversation along with the guilt and concern about its effects on family members.
Now Mary Byers, author of The Mother Load, offers mothers encouragement, help, and camaraderie as she shares:
~women's stories-the good, bad, and the hopeful
~overlooked symptoms and how to manage them
~foods and activities to avoid or indulge in
God's first aid for stress, depression, and anxiety a call for help-how husbands can come to the aid of their wives
This gathering of useful advice and shared experiences will comfort readers who have ever felt alone in their PMS plight and will inspire healthier lifestyles, relationships, and daily choices for all women.
To read an excerpt go here:
About Mary:
Mary Byers is a professional speaker and writer whose passion for transforming lives is evident in every project she takes on. In her first book with Harvest House Publishers, The Mother Load: How to Meet Your Own Needs While Caring for Your Family, Byers teaches women how to take care of themselves so that they can nurture a happy, healthy family.
The mother of two lively children, she offers down-to-earth suggestions, spiritual truths, and real-life advice on how to juggle family responsibilities while creating a balanced life through supportive friendships, stress-relieving laughter, regular exercise, rejuvenating solitude, and an intimate relationship with the Lord. The founder of Word Works, Byers graduated from Indiana University with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Telecommunications. She is also a Certified Association Executive. Byers and her husband, Stuart, reside in Illinois with their two children.
To learn more about Mary visit her website at www.marybyers.com.
A Word from the Author
"It’s my hope that this book will bring help, hope and healing to moms who suffer from PMS. It’s been a source of despair in my own life but things are looking up now that I’ve developed my own coping plan. Those I interviewed for this book shared intimately about their own battles and I believe their stories, along with that of Callie’s (the main character in the book) will convince other women that it is possible to change their current response to PMS and encourage them to start today.”
One day this week one of our managers brought a sales person around our department, and was introducing her to each one of us. The manager didn't say anything wrong to me, but it was what she said to my co-worker that bothered me. She mentioned to the salesperson that "Julia has been with us forever..." or something of that nature (Names have been changed to protect the innocent!) Anyway, it set something off inside of me. I thought, Humph. Even though I left for 2 and a half years, I came back! And I was here longer than HER! Thank the Lord, I didn't say this out loud, but I did mention something to Julia after the ladies left. However I admitted I was just being ultra sensitive and that I was being silly.
Am I always this sensitive??? you may be wondering. No. Three weeks out of the month, I'm normal. I'm happy to be a wife and mom. I'm thankful for my job, especially in these hard economic times. But that one, premenstrual week - WATCH OUT!!!
When I found out this book "The SOS for PMS" existed I literally said: "Praise God!"
As I read Mary's book, I realized I was not alone in my struggles. Things are so bad some times, my husband knows to steer clear of me. I related to so many of the examples in the book it was scary, but also made me feel more at ease that no, it is not just my personality that makes me act like this, it's something many women struggle with. And it does get worse after you have children!
If you suffer from PMS or know a woman who does, I highly recommend this book. There are tips on how to handle those tenacious times of the month. Mary offers advice that may be obvious after you read it, but may not have been something you considered. While I was a stay at home mom, I never thought of calling up a girlfriend to see if she could help me out during the "rough days." But that's something we should be doing! It's better to get help from your friends than to explode on your children.
I'm learning to watch the weeks that go by and recognize the times that I'm susceptible to PMS. If I admit that it's the problem, I can almost tackle it better. However the key to handling PMS is realizing we are not alone in this. Although I suggest getting help from friends and family during these times, we should ultimately reach out to God. He is our true hope and only solution. Mary gives great tips, but keeps the focus on God, and that's the most important
truth in this book.
I'm running a contest to give away a FREE copy of this book! Please comment now through Monday October 6th. I'll draw the winner on Monday. Good luck!!!
About the Book:
In her latest book, Mary explores an often frustrating topic, the symptoms of PMS, and offers practical advice and encouragement for mothers. Readers will find comfort in the stories shared by other moms, realizing that they are not alone in their struggles with PMS.
With this book, you will find suggestions designed to inspire healthier lifestyles, relationships, and daily choices for all women.
Gather any group of moms together and the topic of frustrating PMS symptoms rises up in conversation along with the guilt and concern about its effects on family members.
Now Mary Byers, author of The Mother Load, offers mothers encouragement, help, and camaraderie as she shares:
~women's stories-the good, bad, and the hopeful
~overlooked symptoms and how to manage them
~foods and activities to avoid or indulge in
God's first aid for stress, depression, and anxiety a call for help-how husbands can come to the aid of their wives
This gathering of useful advice and shared experiences will comfort readers who have ever felt alone in their PMS plight and will inspire healthier lifestyles, relationships, and daily choices for all women.
To read an excerpt go here:
About Mary:
Mary Byers is a professional speaker and writer whose passion for transforming lives is evident in every project she takes on. In her first book with Harvest House Publishers, The Mother Load: How to Meet Your Own Needs While Caring for Your Family, Byers teaches women how to take care of themselves so that they can nurture a happy, healthy family.
The mother of two lively children, she offers down-to-earth suggestions, spiritual truths, and real-life advice on how to juggle family responsibilities while creating a balanced life through supportive friendships, stress-relieving laughter, regular exercise, rejuvenating solitude, and an intimate relationship with the Lord. The founder of Word Works, Byers graduated from Indiana University with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Telecommunications. She is also a Certified Association Executive. Byers and her husband, Stuart, reside in Illinois with their two children.
To learn more about Mary visit her website at www.marybyers.com.
A Word from the Author
"It’s my hope that this book will bring help, hope and healing to moms who suffer from PMS. It’s been a source of despair in my own life but things are looking up now that I’ve developed my own coping plan. Those I interviewed for this book shared intimately about their own battles and I believe their stories, along with that of Callie’s (the main character in the book) will convince other women that it is possible to change their current response to PMS and encourage them to start today.”
Monday, August 25, 2008
It's time...
Time for what?
Not to lose weight necessarily... I definitely need to... but to simply get healthy.
The Jack LaLanne Power Juicer is out from under the cupboard. Saturday, my daughter helped me juice a carrot, apple and a handful of strawberries. It was delicious!
I'm trying to eat more salads and replace veggies (raw is better) reduce my meat and potatoes intake. It isn't easy.
Last night we ordered from the restaurant Chili's. It would've been so easy to order the high fat sandwich and fries. Instead, I ordered the Quesadilla Explosion salad. Yes, it does have "salad" in its title, but from what I understand, it isn't THAT good for you. But I'm trying. I'm taking baby steps. I just have to keep it up.
So in an effort to keep up with my progress, I'm going to try to start making healthy foods. And when I do, I'll post a recipe, just like the one below. There'll be fattening stuff in them too, but like I said. I'm taking baby steps. I'm
How about you? Are you making any changes in your life to improve it?
(Photo taken by A. McCabe off Flickr.com)
...To get healthy!
Not to lose weight necessarily... I definitely need to... but to simply get healthy.
The Jack LaLanne Power Juicer is out from under the cupboard. Saturday, my daughter helped me juice a carrot, apple and a handful of strawberries. It was delicious!
I'm trying to eat more salads and replace veggies (raw is better) reduce my meat and potatoes intake. It isn't easy.
Last night we ordered from the restaurant Chili's. It would've been so easy to order the high fat sandwich and fries. Instead, I ordered the Quesadilla Explosion salad. Yes, it does have "salad" in its title, but from what I understand, it isn't THAT good for you. But I'm trying. I'm taking baby steps. I just have to keep it up.
So in an effort to keep up with my progress, I'm going to try to start making healthy foods. And when I do, I'll post a recipe, just like the one below. There'll be fattening stuff in them too, but like I said. I'm taking baby steps. I'm
How about you? Are you making any changes in your life to improve it?
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World by Joanna Weaver
Christy here:
My husband has been telling me, "You need to slow down."
I work full time, I still co-teach Sunday School. I try to make it to prayer meeting on Wednesday night. I try not to be so tired in the evenings because I want to spend time with my daughter and my husband. I wonder how my parents are doing. I wonder how my friends are doing and I want to talk to them all! I want to have plenty of time to write. But there are only 24 hours in a day. I can't pack everything into one day.
Days go by and turn into a week and I haven't spoken to my mother, even on the telephone. If my husband wasn't so good about going to the grocery store on the days he's off, I guess we'd starve or live off fast food, because I never feel like going to the store when I get off work. The weekends are packed with trying to clean the house, spending quality time with my daughter and husband. Pieces of me are spread so far thin, it's a wonder there is anything left to go around!
My writing, my passion, my one true goal, gets pushed to "whenever". Some weeks, whenever just doesn't come. And if it does come, I waste my time checking email, blogging or just piddling. I'm the only one that can make that dream happen. Well, I'm dependent on others, but I have to finish revisions and submit the manuscript, or it will never be viewed by the requesting editor!
What I'm taking so long to say is that Joanna Weaver's book was timely. Too timely almost. I'm thinking, Lord, did you have something to do with this?
Of course He did. He's planned it all out. I believe He even Mrs. Weaver's book, one I promise will speak volumes to you whether you're a student, a stay at home mom, working mom, or grandma.
I'm familiar with the story of Mary and Martha. I've thought how lucky those too ladies were to host Jesus in their home. But in the past, I've skimmed over the story. I never saw it for what it is. Thank goodness, Joanna Weaver takes this piece of the bible and studies it line by line. She has a way of explaining Mary and Martha in terms that I can identify with.
Martha was the type of person who obsessed over every detail. The flower arrangement had to be perfect and it had to match the napkins and tablecloth. Mary had helped during the day, but she knew the purpose of the evening. Martha was in too big of a hurry to make sure everything was perfect and everyone was happy to realize those things weren't important.
I look at my opening paragraphs and I can find fault with the way my to-do list is set up. Work is first. Worship is crunched somewhere between work and family. Did the Lord crunch me on His to-do list? No. He's got equal time for us all. Shouldn't He be at the TOP of my priorities?
This makes me think of a lady I worked for many years. When I began working for her, I was a Christian, but I will admit, my walk wasn't worthy of the Lord. I sat down with my new boss during a one-on-one meeting and she listed out her priorities to me. If she had asked me what I thought her priorities were, I would've put work at the top of the list for she was a woman who did her job well, had an organized and highly productive team. I was the newest member.
To my surprise, her list went like this: God, Husband, Children, Family... Work was somewhere down the line. But the key here is God was first on her list. This reflects the story of Mary and Martha. God was first on Mary's list, but for Martha, He was somewhere down the line.
Joanna Weaver opens up this book with the tale of the sisters and addresses so many topics we ladies face in between. She analyzes the Lord's intended balance of work and worship. The book is easy to read and draws you into the world of Mary and Martha, every woman's world. The question is, where do you fall? Is it where the Lord wants you to be?
About Joanna:
Joanna Weaver was voted the Most Promising New Writer of 1997 at the Mount Herman Writer’s Conference. She has authored Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World and written for publications such as Focus on the Family, Home Life, Aspire, and The Evangel. A pastor’s wife for more than eighteen years, she and her husband have counseled many couples, both those approaching their wedding and those struggling in marriage. The Weavers live in Montana and have taught young married classes and spoken on the topic of marriage throughout the northwestern United States.
About Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World:
An invitation for every woman who’s ever felt she isn’t godly enough, isn’t loving enough, isn’t doing enough.
The life of a woman today isn’t really all that different from that of Mary and Martha in the
New Testament. Like Mary, you long to sit at the Lord’s feet…but the daily demands of a busy world just won’t leave you alone. Like Martha, you love Jesus and really want to serve him…yet you struggle with weariness, resentment, and feelings of inadequacy.
Then comes Jesus, into the midst of your busy life, to extend the same invitation he issued long ago to the two sisters from Bethany. Tenderly, he invites you to choose “the better part”–a joyful life of intimacy with him that flows naturally into loving service.
Check out Joanna's blog.
My husband has been telling me, "You need to slow down."
I work full time, I still co-teach Sunday School. I try to make it to prayer meeting on Wednesday night. I try not to be so tired in the evenings because I want to spend time with my daughter and my husband. I wonder how my parents are doing. I wonder how my friends are doing and I want to talk to them all! I want to have plenty of time to write. But there are only 24 hours in a day. I can't pack everything into one day.
Days go by and turn into a week and I haven't spoken to my mother, even on the telephone. If my husband wasn't so good about going to the grocery store on the days he's off, I guess we'd starve or live off fast food, because I never feel like going to the store when I get off work. The weekends are packed with trying to clean the house, spending quality time with my daughter and husband. Pieces of me are spread so far thin, it's a wonder there is anything left to go around!
My writing, my passion, my one true goal, gets pushed to "whenever". Some weeks, whenever just doesn't come. And if it does come, I waste my time checking email, blogging or just piddling. I'm the only one that can make that dream happen. Well, I'm dependent on others, but I have to finish revisions and submit the manuscript, or it will never be viewed by the requesting editor!
What I'm taking so long to say is that Joanna Weaver's book was timely. Too timely almost. I'm thinking, Lord, did you have something to do with this?
Of course He did. He's planned it all out. I believe He even Mrs. Weaver's book, one I promise will speak volumes to you whether you're a student, a stay at home mom, working mom, or grandma.
I'm familiar with the story of Mary and Martha. I've thought how lucky those too ladies were to host Jesus in their home. But in the past, I've skimmed over the story. I never saw it for what it is. Thank goodness, Joanna Weaver takes this piece of the bible and studies it line by line. She has a way of explaining Mary and Martha in terms that I can identify with.
Martha was the type of person who obsessed over every detail. The flower arrangement had to be perfect and it had to match the napkins and tablecloth. Mary had helped during the day, but she knew the purpose of the evening. Martha was in too big of a hurry to make sure everything was perfect and everyone was happy to realize those things weren't important.
I look at my opening paragraphs and I can find fault with the way my to-do list is set up. Work is first. Worship is crunched somewhere between work and family. Did the Lord crunch me on His to-do list? No. He's got equal time for us all. Shouldn't He be at the TOP of my priorities?
This makes me think of a lady I worked for many years. When I began working for her, I was a Christian, but I will admit, my walk wasn't worthy of the Lord. I sat down with my new boss during a one-on-one meeting and she listed out her priorities to me. If she had asked me what I thought her priorities were, I would've put work at the top of the list for she was a woman who did her job well, had an organized and highly productive team. I was the newest member.
To my surprise, her list went like this: God, Husband, Children, Family... Work was somewhere down the line. But the key here is God was first on her list. This reflects the story of Mary and Martha. God was first on Mary's list, but for Martha, He was somewhere down the line.
Joanna Weaver opens up this book with the tale of the sisters and addresses so many topics we ladies face in between. She analyzes the Lord's intended balance of work and worship. The book is easy to read and draws you into the world of Mary and Martha, every woman's world. The question is, where do you fall? Is it where the Lord wants you to be?
About Joanna:
Joanna Weaver was voted the Most Promising New Writer of 1997 at the Mount Herman Writer’s Conference. She has authored Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World and written for publications such as Focus on the Family, Home Life, Aspire, and The Evangel. A pastor’s wife for more than eighteen years, she and her husband have counseled many couples, both those approaching their wedding and those struggling in marriage. The Weavers live in Montana and have taught young married classes and spoken on the topic of marriage throughout the northwestern United States.
About Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World:
An invitation for every woman who’s ever felt she isn’t godly enough, isn’t loving enough, isn’t doing enough.
The life of a woman today isn’t really all that different from that of Mary and Martha in the
New Testament. Like Mary, you long to sit at the Lord’s feet…but the daily demands of a busy world just won’t leave you alone. Like Martha, you love Jesus and really want to serve him…yet you struggle with weariness, resentment, and feelings of inadequacy.
Then comes Jesus, into the midst of your busy life, to extend the same invitation he issued long ago to the two sisters from Bethany. Tenderly, he invites you to choose “the better part”–a joyful life of intimacy with him that flows naturally into loving service.
Check out Joanna's blog.
Sunday, April 6, 2008
Generation Next Marriage by Tricia Goyer
I didn't know what my generation was called until I read this book. From page 5 of Generation NeXt Marriage here's the breakdown:
GI: Born 1900s to 1920s
Silent: Born 1920s to 1940s
Boomer: Born 1940s to 1960s
Xer: Born 1960s to 1980s
Millennial: Born 1980s to 2000s
I am a GenXer.
Furthermore, Tricia gives more facts about GEN XERS:
- Gen Xers consist of 41 million Americans born between 1961 and 1981.
- Gen Xers are serious about life. When it comes to marriage we want to do it right.
- Gen Xers are stressed out, we want to do it all... now.
- Gen Xers love to volunteer, to give, to help, to make a difference!
- Gen Xers are self-reliant, yet highly spiritual.
- According to a recent George Barna study only 28 percent Gen Xers (ages 20-37) attend church , compared to 51 percent of Builders (58+).
Tricia Goyer's Generation NeXt Marriage - The Couple's Guide to Keeping it Together addressed so much of what I go through every day. But to participate in this blog tour - I've got to bare my soul and take a chapter out of the book that really hit home with me.
Long sigh here....
Here I go.
Christy, born in 1975
married 10 years
Chapter 16: Dancing in the Sheets: Lovemaking.
I am the type of girl who will do all I can to help a coworker, a friend. I'll be there for my daughter. But when it comes to being a wife, I sometimes fall short.
When you're POPS - parents of a preschooler - time alone together has to be grabbed early in the morning or late at night. We have to give as much as we can of each other in quick snippets here and there. I feel guilty if my daughter's occupied in one room and my husband wants to steal a kiss in the other. And by the time bedtime for baby girl rolls around, after a long day for me at work, some days include going to church and running all over the world before going home, I'm dead tired. The last thing I feel is sexy and the only thing I want to do when I head to the bedroom is go to sleep!
Tricia suggests in her book some things to help those of us who are already pushed to the limit, not to ignore these intimate times, brief as they may be, between a husband and wife. Besides, what type of relationship our children see in us will have an impact on them and their future marriage.
1> Understand Passion.
2> Be Available.
3> Plan it.
4> Find Fulfillment.
I knew to do each one of these things, but it's so easy to hurry through life, running some race of which you can't see the finish line, and let those things that mean the most to us, come in last. My dear husband comes in last quite often.
But he is so patient. And he is always reminding me how much he loves me and seems to have a fire for me that hasn't gone out since we started dating nearly sixteen years ago.
Tricia's book helped me see I'm not the only woman out there who struggles. There are so many great chapters in this book that deal with balancing children, work and home, it's hard to list them all in one blog.
Each time I turned the page for a new chapter, Tricia related the chapter to some song from the 80s. Yes, I still sing along to these. Unforgettable lyrics where we're all searching for our soul mate. I am a Gen Xer. There's no way around it and I really don't want to hide it. But what I want to do is realize I don't have to do it all. I have priorities - priorities my husband reminds me he and my daughter are a part of every day!
Thanks Tricia! You reminded me I am not alone in this adventure of life, in this generation. We all have choices to make. We can have it all, but the way we go about it is what will lead to our success or our failure.
About the Author:
Tricia Goyer is the author of twelve books including From Dust and Ashes, My Life UnScripted, and the children's book, 10 Minutes to Showtime. She won Historical Novel of the Year in 2005 and 2006 from ACFW, and was honored with the Writer of the Year award from Mt. Hermon Writer's Conference in 2003. Tricia's book Life Interrupted was a finalist for the Gold Medallion in 2005. In addition to her novels, Tricia writes non-fiction books and magazine articles for publications like Today's Christian Woman and Focus on the Family. Tricia is a regular speaker at conventions and conferences, and has been a workshop presenter at the MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) International Conventions. She and her family make their home in the mountains of Montana.
Monday, January 7, 2008
The Last Monday
Today is my last Monday as a stay at home mom.
My husband just called from work to check in. As soon as the phone started ringing, my sleeping toddler started squalling. By the tone of her cry, she didn't like being pulled out of sleep by my cell phone (never mind, it was several rooms away from hers.)
I walk into her room as I'm talking to her dad and try to give her a little love. The call is ending with my husband and I inform baby girl that "Daddy was calling to check on you."
What does she do? She swats my face, knocking my eyeglasses off my face.
Judging by this morning, it looks like the mornings to come when I'm getting her out of bed before dark to drag her to Nana's so I can get to work on time will be loads of fun.
Do you detect the dread in my voice?
Who will have the hardest time coping with these new changes? Me? - the one getting swatted in the face; Toddler? - the one doing the swatting; Or Daddy and Nana? Innocents who will have to deal with two red-headed, many mornings irritable, females.
Lord help 'em. They're gonna need it.
My husband just called from work to check in. As soon as the phone started ringing, my sleeping toddler started squalling. By the tone of her cry, she didn't like being pulled out of sleep by my cell phone (never mind, it was several rooms away from hers.)
I walk into her room as I'm talking to her dad and try to give her a little love. The call is ending with my husband and I inform baby girl that "Daddy was calling to check on you."
What does she do? She swats my face, knocking my eyeglasses off my face.
Judging by this morning, it looks like the mornings to come when I'm getting her out of bed before dark to drag her to Nana's so I can get to work on time will be loads of fun.
Do you detect the dread in my voice?
Who will have the hardest time coping with these new changes? Me? - the one getting swatted in the face; Toddler? - the one doing the swatting; Or Daddy and Nana? Innocents who will have to deal with two red-headed, many mornings irritable, females.
Lord help 'em. They're gonna need it.
Sunday, December 30, 2007
Getting to the Church on time...
It happened again today.
I get a heavy feeling upon my shoulders. I feel rushed. Suddenly, the morning is gone and I'm late - when I should've had plenty of time to get ready. Goodness, I've been up since six. Three hours is plenty of time to get ready and make it to church on time.
That's what I'm talking about. Getting to church on Sunday mornings. You'd think I was putting on a ton of armor and going onto a desert battlefield.
I'm just going to spend an hour with a few preschoolers.
How hard can that be?
Why do I make it so hard?
Why do I listen to that little voice, that speaks to me as I'm rushing through the house? The voice that tells me I'm not good enough. I should quit.
But I haven't listened to that voice yet. I'm still teaching Sunday School and every Sunday, the class works out fine. No matter how prepared I am, or not. It's like the Lord is watching over me and helps me communicate His word to these little children. His little children.
I am reminded, when I look into their precious little faces, that they love the Lord with an innocence I need to revisit. They know God and they know Jesus and it's my job to teach them stories of the Bible.
No wonder the Devil wants to put a roadblock in my path every Sunday morning.
But I'm not going to let him.
It's easy to quit. However, I couldn't live with myself. I made a commitment and I'm going to see it through.
I get a heavy feeling upon my shoulders. I feel rushed. Suddenly, the morning is gone and I'm late - when I should've had plenty of time to get ready. Goodness, I've been up since six. Three hours is plenty of time to get ready and make it to church on time.
That's what I'm talking about. Getting to church on Sunday mornings. You'd think I was putting on a ton of armor and going onto a desert battlefield.
I'm just going to spend an hour with a few preschoolers.
How hard can that be?
Why do I make it so hard?
Why do I listen to that little voice, that speaks to me as I'm rushing through the house? The voice that tells me I'm not good enough. I should quit.
But I haven't listened to that voice yet. I'm still teaching Sunday School and every Sunday, the class works out fine. No matter how prepared I am, or not. It's like the Lord is watching over me and helps me communicate His word to these little children. His little children.
I am reminded, when I look into their precious little faces, that they love the Lord with an innocence I need to revisit. They know God and they know Jesus and it's my job to teach them stories of the Bible.
No wonder the Devil wants to put a roadblock in my path every Sunday morning.
But I'm not going to let him.
It's easy to quit. However, I couldn't live with myself. I made a commitment and I'm going to see it through.
Saturday, November 3, 2007
Miss Touch-Me-Not goes to the spa
Yes, I am a touch-me-not. I like to give hugs and get hugs, but deep down, I need my dance space ~ Think back to the movie Dirty Dancing and Patrick Swayze explaining "This is my dance space, this is your dance space."
Back in the spring, my husband bought me a half day spa package.
So, you see, this was a big step, Miss Touch-Me-Not going to a spa, to let strangers put their hands on me.
The one thing that would have made the whole experience perfect was I had been able to take my laptop with me and someone had assigned a private room for me to work for the other half of the day. But all good things must come to an end.
Anyway, I arrive at Patrick's of Atlanta (I'm at their Buford location) at 9 am. Of course, I realize as I'm getting out of the car, that I've forgotten the gift certificate. (You can lead a horse to water, folks, but you can't make her drink). Everyone can give me a collective DUH - I can take it.
Luckily, every certificate sold is put in Patrick's computer and they were able to call up my husband's purchase. No problem the receptionist assured me.
Lisa greets me with a handshake and leads me to the back of the building through curtained French doors. Soft music and dimmed lights set the scene as I head to the room where I'll get my facial.
Lisa tells me about their products, offers one of those microderm ebrasion (gee, am I even spelling that right?) deals, which I decide I'm not ready for. On the table, as I'm getting my neck and shoulders massaged and have this ooey-gooey good smelling stuff on my face, I bring up the fact I hate my eyebrows, that I pencil them in just to have the faintest definition. Lisa tells me her eyebrows are dyed. Lisa's looked good and I liked the shape of them. I added a wax to having my eyebrows dyed. I put my trust in Lisa's hands.
Did I mention Lisa is either Hispanic or Polynesian? Or maybe a little of both. I couldn't decide. Anyway, I had no idea when I left the room a half hour later, that my eyebrows would be as DARK as hers.
I'm red-headed.
I looked like a clown.
Oh well, chin up. I went out to face the public to have my pedicure and manicure done. The technician put a great parriffin wax on my feet that was simply wonderful. When she was through, I wished I had some where fancy to go where I could wear sandals and pretty rings.
( I wish I could remember the nail tech's name, but for the life of me I can't. Her little boy was sick and we talked about that. I hope he's doing better. I'm sure it's tough to have to show up to work when your child is sick at home)
She led me back through the double doors to the darkened area that was playing the soft music to have my Swedish massage.
I was really relaxed half way through this, as I confessed to the masseuse, Laura, that I'm a writer. Never mind I'm not published and really don't expect to become published until I'm dead or at least 90 years old - whichever comes first - but I find out Laura's a writer too. She's writing something geared toward colleges along the psychology line. But she thinks writing fiction is harder than that (??). I encouraged her to join a writers group to network and connect with publishers, editors and agents.
Then I head over to have my hair cut. Christy did a fabulous job and gave my long hair some much needed layers. 2 weeks later and I still love the cut. I'd go back to her if she wasn't so expensive.
Then I get to the front desk. Time to pay up. This was a gift certificate, you remember, so my husband had already paid for the bulk of it.
I added on that eyebrow waxing, the ill-fated eyebrow dying, and the hair cut. Add 20% gratuity on to that and I've just spent $137.
GULP....
Have we been to the grocery store this week?
Is there anything in the freezer to cook?
Can we live on Mac and Cheese until payday?
How can I face my family!!!???
What two things did I learn from this experience?
1) Say no to having my eyebrows dyed again.
2) Leave the debit card at home.
Oh, but there's a third thing I learned from all of this....
Even a touch-me-not can enjoy herself at the spa ;)
Back in the spring, my husband bought me a half day spa package.
So, you see, this was a big step, Miss Touch-Me-Not going to a spa, to let strangers put their hands on me.
The one thing that would have made the whole experience perfect was I had been able to take my laptop with me and someone had assigned a private room for me to work for the other half of the day. But all good things must come to an end.
Anyway, I arrive at Patrick's of Atlanta (I'm at their Buford location) at 9 am. Of course, I realize as I'm getting out of the car, that I've forgotten the gift certificate. (You can lead a horse to water, folks, but you can't make her drink). Everyone can give me a collective DUH - I can take it.
Luckily, every certificate sold is put in Patrick's computer and they were able to call up my husband's purchase. No problem the receptionist assured me.
Lisa greets me with a handshake and leads me to the back of the building through curtained French doors. Soft music and dimmed lights set the scene as I head to the room where I'll get my facial.
Lisa tells me about their products, offers one of those microderm ebrasion (gee, am I even spelling that right?) deals, which I decide I'm not ready for. On the table, as I'm getting my neck and shoulders massaged and have this ooey-gooey good smelling stuff on my face, I bring up the fact I hate my eyebrows, that I pencil them in just to have the faintest definition. Lisa tells me her eyebrows are dyed. Lisa's looked good and I liked the shape of them. I added a wax to having my eyebrows dyed. I put my trust in Lisa's hands.
Did I mention Lisa is either Hispanic or Polynesian? Or maybe a little of both. I couldn't decide. Anyway, I had no idea when I left the room a half hour later, that my eyebrows would be as DARK as hers.
I'm red-headed.
I looked like a clown.
Oh well, chin up. I went out to face the public to have my pedicure and manicure done. The technician put a great parriffin wax on my feet that was simply wonderful. When she was through, I wished I had some where fancy to go where I could wear sandals and pretty rings.
( I wish I could remember the nail tech's name, but for the life of me I can't. Her little boy was sick and we talked about that. I hope he's doing better. I'm sure it's tough to have to show up to work when your child is sick at home)
She led me back through the double doors to the darkened area that was playing the soft music to have my Swedish massage.
I was really relaxed half way through this, as I confessed to the masseuse, Laura, that I'm a writer. Never mind I'm not published and really don't expect to become published until I'm dead or at least 90 years old - whichever comes first - but I find out Laura's a writer too. She's writing something geared toward colleges along the psychology line. But she thinks writing fiction is harder than that (??). I encouraged her to join a writers group to network and connect with publishers, editors and agents.
Then I head over to have my hair cut. Christy did a fabulous job and gave my long hair some much needed layers. 2 weeks later and I still love the cut. I'd go back to her if she wasn't so expensive.
Then I get to the front desk. Time to pay up. This was a gift certificate, you remember, so my husband had already paid for the bulk of it.
I added on that eyebrow waxing, the ill-fated eyebrow dying, and the hair cut. Add 20% gratuity on to that and I've just spent $137.
GULP....
Have we been to the grocery store this week?
Is there anything in the freezer to cook?
Can we live on Mac and Cheese until payday?
How can I face my family!!!???
What two things did I learn from this experience?
1) Say no to having my eyebrows dyed again.
2) Leave the debit card at home.
Oh, but there's a third thing I learned from all of this....
Even a touch-me-not can enjoy herself at the spa ;)
Sunday, September 2, 2007
Teach by Example
I'm learning this concept the hard way.
My two year old's stubborn spirit became evident early on. We marveled at how quickly she learned. She loved to watch Barney. Because we liked to keep her happy, we bought every DVD we could find of Barney. Downey got where she could tell us which Barney episode she wanted to watch AND insert that into the DVD player!
But like most toddlers, and children, they aren't receptive when it comes to doing what they're told. Singing the "Clean Up, Clean Up" song that was featured on a Barney episode soon wasn't enough to motivate my little one to clean up her mess. She'd rather leave the mess of toys or paper/crayons and go on to the next adventure.
Though spanking may work sometimes, I feel it should be an absolute last resort.
I realized this when Downey started hitting back.
Then I began to see the temper tantrums she was throwing. Standing there screaming, hands balled in tight fists, she'd let me know she was angry - real fast!
That's when I knew. My little angel had learned by example.
MY example.
Friends and family can be so sweet. "Christy," they say, "you're a good mother."
If only they knew how many times a day I fail! Downey gets her short temper from me! (And her father, he's not innocent in this at all!) If I had a nickel for every time during the day I stop what I'm doing - and send a sling-shot prayer up to God. "Please help me, Lord! Help me find patience! I know she's only two, but I know she realizes she's driving me crazy - And she's enjoying every minute of it!" - I'd be a woman with a whole lotta nickels!
So parents, just know every word you say, your little one is listening. If you say a curse word, you'd better believe your little angel is going to repeat it the very next day. If you lose your temper, your little one is going to act out his/her frustrations in the same manner.
This weekend, I explained to Downey we don't always get our way. At Sunday school, Downey's friend, Carley, stole her chair and then took Downey's toy. I feel I'm in a difficult spot - because I don't see everything that's happening with these kids. I miss the Carley took my toy part, or the Downey took my doll part. I'm having a hard time because I'm not just Downey's mom, who wants to defend her as much as possible, I'm also the teacher and will be fair to all the kids. I see my daughter isn't always right, just like me.
I'm learning about discipline (the how tos and what nots)right along with her.
I am helping Grandma realize she must use a firm tone with Downey to show our stubborn two year old that hitting Grandma is not acceptable.
Downey is not a Holy Terror. Let me assure you of this. She is a sweet child, who knows what the Bible looks like and is. She sings "Jesus Loves Me" and Barney's "I Love You, You Love Me" song. She is learning to share. She has a sweet, tender side, that's demonstrated in the way she cares for her dolls, feeds them, loves them. She loves her family and talks about them often, even when its been weeks that she hasn't seen Aunt Kari, Uncle Blake and Cousin Landon. She looks forward to going to Nana's and seeing Cousin Savannah. She loves Grandma, Paw-Paw, and Chelsea.
It's times like this that I know I'm not screwing my child up totally. I realize something I'm doing during the day is right, even though I look over the house and the laundry's still piled up, half-folded, there are dishes in the sink, and I'm stressed because I've wasted my writing time and haven't accomplished any of my goals for the day.
Yet, I'll never be able to return to these days when Downey lets me hold her and we watch her favorite "The Big Comfy Couch" program. (She hates for me to read to her! Gasp!)
The days when all we worry about is if we're going to go outside and play on the swing set or blow bubbles will soon be gone.
I'm trying to remember God put Downey in my life for a reason. I don't know what tomorrow will bring, so I need to cherish every moment. Don't sweat the small stuff and laugh when all I want to do is cry. I need to look into her eyes, touch her tiny fingers, and remember time goes way too fast.
Teach by example, and be the best example possible.
My two year old's stubborn spirit became evident early on. We marveled at how quickly she learned. She loved to watch Barney. Because we liked to keep her happy, we bought every DVD we could find of Barney. Downey got where she could tell us which Barney episode she wanted to watch AND insert that into the DVD player!
But like most toddlers, and children, they aren't receptive when it comes to doing what they're told. Singing the "Clean Up, Clean Up" song that was featured on a Barney episode soon wasn't enough to motivate my little one to clean up her mess. She'd rather leave the mess of toys or paper/crayons and go on to the next adventure.
Though spanking may work sometimes, I feel it should be an absolute last resort.
I realized this when Downey started hitting back.
Then I began to see the temper tantrums she was throwing. Standing there screaming, hands balled in tight fists, she'd let me know she was angry - real fast!
That's when I knew. My little angel had learned by example.
MY example.
Friends and family can be so sweet. "Christy," they say, "you're a good mother."
If only they knew how many times a day I fail! Downey gets her short temper from me! (And her father, he's not innocent in this at all!) If I had a nickel for every time during the day I stop what I'm doing - and send a sling-shot prayer up to God. "Please help me, Lord! Help me find patience! I know she's only two, but I know she realizes she's driving me crazy - And she's enjoying every minute of it!" - I'd be a woman with a whole lotta nickels!
So parents, just know every word you say, your little one is listening. If you say a curse word, you'd better believe your little angel is going to repeat it the very next day. If you lose your temper, your little one is going to act out his/her frustrations in the same manner.
This weekend, I explained to Downey we don't always get our way. At Sunday school, Downey's friend, Carley, stole her chair and then took Downey's toy. I feel I'm in a difficult spot - because I don't see everything that's happening with these kids. I miss the Carley took my toy part, or the Downey took my doll part. I'm having a hard time because I'm not just Downey's mom, who wants to defend her as much as possible, I'm also the teacher and will be fair to all the kids. I see my daughter isn't always right, just like me.
I'm learning about discipline (the how tos and what nots)right along with her.
I am helping Grandma realize she must use a firm tone with Downey to show our stubborn two year old that hitting Grandma is not acceptable.
Downey is not a Holy Terror. Let me assure you of this. She is a sweet child, who knows what the Bible looks like and is. She sings "Jesus Loves Me" and Barney's "I Love You, You Love Me" song. She is learning to share. She has a sweet, tender side, that's demonstrated in the way she cares for her dolls, feeds them, loves them. She loves her family and talks about them often, even when its been weeks that she hasn't seen Aunt Kari, Uncle Blake and Cousin Landon. She looks forward to going to Nana's and seeing Cousin Savannah. She loves Grandma, Paw-Paw, and Chelsea.
It's times like this that I know I'm not screwing my child up totally. I realize something I'm doing during the day is right, even though I look over the house and the laundry's still piled up, half-folded, there are dishes in the sink, and I'm stressed because I've wasted my writing time and haven't accomplished any of my goals for the day.
Yet, I'll never be able to return to these days when Downey lets me hold her and we watch her favorite "The Big Comfy Couch" program. (She hates for me to read to her! Gasp!)
The days when all we worry about is if we're going to go outside and play on the swing set or blow bubbles will soon be gone.
I'm trying to remember God put Downey in my life for a reason. I don't know what tomorrow will bring, so I need to cherish every moment. Don't sweat the small stuff and laugh when all I want to do is cry. I need to look into her eyes, touch her tiny fingers, and remember time goes way too fast.
Teach by example, and be the best example possible.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
What does Princess by day, Frog by night mean, anyway?
However early I start, from the first phone call or a trip to town, I'm "on".
The word Princess is used in jest.
Some days are better than others.
There are days when I feel confident and one would imagine a Princess must have several degrees of confidence to greet her public and assist in maintaining her castle.
Princess by day means my eye glasses are off and my contact lenses are in. My make up is done, even though it may be minimal. My smile is placed. My heart is joyful with love for the Lord of whom I strayed for some time. I am gracious and loving.
But some days I may feel a little Froggy.
Those are days you don't want to get out of your pjs. The eye glasses are worn all day. You've forgotten if you brushed your teeth. You're just you and you don't care who knows it.
I always notice the tree frogs come out at night. They sing loud and don't care if they're in tune or not. But they energize the night and that's all that matters.
This label on my blog is intended to be a creative outlet. I'm not going to worry if what I type makes sense.
I'll post what I feel for that day. It may be a memory. I may rant. It's my blog. I can do that.
But one thing I want to do every time I post is share a scripture.
I'm going to try, at least, I'll try...
The word Princess is used in jest.
Some days are better than others.
There are days when I feel confident and one would imagine a Princess must have several degrees of confidence to greet her public and assist in maintaining her castle.
Princess by day means my eye glasses are off and my contact lenses are in. My make up is done, even though it may be minimal. My smile is placed. My heart is joyful with love for the Lord of whom I strayed for some time. I am gracious and loving.
But some days I may feel a little Froggy.
Those are days you don't want to get out of your pjs. The eye glasses are worn all day. You've forgotten if you brushed your teeth. You're just you and you don't care who knows it.
I always notice the tree frogs come out at night. They sing loud and don't care if they're in tune or not. But they energize the night and that's all that matters.
This label on my blog is intended to be a creative outlet. I'm not going to worry if what I type makes sense.
I'll post what I feel for that day. It may be a memory. I may rant. It's my blog. I can do that.
But one thing I want to do every time I post is share a scripture.
I'm going to try, at least, I'll try...
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